Thursday Thought 11th January 2018 Meant to be misunderstood

Following Jesus constantly baffles me! I find that most of what God asks me to do is completely backwards and contrary to what I feel. There are times when I love hearing from that ‘still small voice’ and there are other times when, I’ll be honest, I just don’t want to hear it!

I’m learning from experience though that God’s way is ALWAYS the best way.

It doesn’t matter how I’m feeling and how much my flesh screams, I know that if I just do what God is asking me to do, all will be well and I can get back to experiencing His peace and joy once again.

Update & Testimony

So, most of you will know that I received a challenging text message after church on Sunday. It cut me to the core and completely knocked the stuffing out of me. I went to my two trusted Christian friends for advice and whilst they recognised that I hadn’t done anything to justify getting such a nasty text, I should still think about apologising anyway. My honest thoughts were,

“What? Are you serious? But I haven’t done anything, why should I have to apologise! It should be her apologising to me, not the other way around!”

For two days I wrestled, with my friends advice and also with what I knew God was telling me to do. I had to swallow my pride, reach out in love and say sorry.

As soon as I sent a reply in love, I instantly felt the presence of God and entered into His perfect peace and rest. Any ties of hurt and unforgiveness were completely severed and I felt free! Praise God!

Jesus Christ can afford to be misunderstood, we cannot. Our weakness lies in always wanting to vindicate ourselves. Oswald Chambers

Being misunderstood can be painful and the temptation is there to feel the need to explain ourselves. We want others to know our heart and for them to realise they’ve got it wrong about us. Truth is, we are meant to be misunderstood. Jesus was and still is, constantly misunderstood and yet He never made a sound. Jesus allowed people to say whatever they wanted about Him but not once did He attempt to vindicate Himself. Jesus allowed the Father to lift Him up in due time.

Psalm 3:3 But You, O Lord, are a shield for me, My glory and my honor, and the One who lifts my head.

If you are going through something similar, don’t be tempted to vindicate yourself, instead allow God to be the ‘lifter of your head’ and step into His perfect peace.

God’s way of doing things is always the best way!


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  1. Hi Hayley, you’re being taught by the Master! You can’t buy what God is teaching you. A willing spirit is a gift because it opens so many doors. I’m going to share with you a little something that God taught me.
    Sometimes we can be hurt by things that others say about us and our natural reaction is to go into the defensive mode. We almost do it without thinking. But it NEVER hurts to look back at the situation and see where we could have reacted differently. Even in a situation where we are not necessarily wrong, we can always extend the olive branch so to speak. I dearly love my wife but …. there are times (much fewer now) when she can really get me going and during these now rare instances, we sometimes say things that we really haven’t seriously thought about until after they have come out of our mouths. As soon as that happens I almost instantly know that I have crossed the line. I may be right in my objection but I have been wrong in my delivery. Not good, God doesn’t like to see any of His children deliberately hurt by others and that includes me. What I do is, admit that I have crossed the line to God and to my wife, even if my intent was right and the objection I had was on solid ground, and apologize or say I am sorry for the part that I played in causing her to be hurt or misunderstood. Anytime that there is a possibility that others may misunderstand our intent or unintentionally get hurt by something we said or the manner in which we may have said it, it never hurts to admit our own shortcomings and lay it on the line to the other person. If it’s a fellow Christian I would also suggest asking them to forgive us. I have learned that it’s not always what we are saying that is wrong but the manner in which we are saying it could possibly be worded a little better. It happens, we’re all human, and that admission helps to break down barriers. What this does is awaken us to the reality that what we think we have said and how others may perceive what we have said are not always one and the same and an indication on our part to admit the possible error on our part often opens up the possibility of reconciliation. Key word here is “often”, that doesn’t necessarily mean “always”, but even if it doesn’t, at least we know that we were honest in our attempt to be honest with them. Food for thought. Self examination is never easy but it is absolutely necessary. And just for good measure, God loves you a whole bunch! Grace and blessings!

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    1. Bruce, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and heart with me, I really appreciate it. Everything that you’ve written is completely relatable to me and I think you’re completely right in what you’re saying. You’re spot on when you say that self examination is necessary. I think we should always be open to the chance that we could actually be wrong too.
      I’m so thankful for having the Holy Spirit as my guide and friend, I’d be lost without Jesus!
      Blessings to you my friend in Christ.
      Hayley 😊🙏

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  2. I recently had an opportunity to tell someone I had had time to reflect on my past words and actions and I was sorry, and, for the first time, I apologized without trying to explain myself. Even though it was a phone conversation, I could feel things begin to shift. I pray that simple act leads to more breakthrough. The power of God is incredible. And I very much like the quote you use mid-post.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment. I’m glad that you were able to apologise without the need to explain yourself and then reaped the rewards for doing that. I’ll keep you in my prayers that more breakthrough comes from your obedience.
      Glad you like the quote! 😊
      Blessings, Hayley ❤️

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  3. Sorry Hayley but I do not agree with your friends, unless they knew you were in error but they would need to explain why you were and not just tell you to say sorry for what you feel you have not done. God does not expect us to say sorry for the wrong others do, there is no Scripture that confirms this and nor did Jesus do this. He stood up for the Truth and even got the whip out and overturned tables and He called the Pharisees a Brood of Vipers and also told Peter that what he was saying was from Satan. Leading up to His Crucifixion He did say what was needed but there was no need to defend Himself because He had done no wrong. The Apostle Paul was also quick to rebuke those in the Church who did wrong and was firm when needed but both corrected in Love and for Love, it is not Love to watch Satan get a foothold in someones life and not warn them.

    But being accused Hayley of what you haven’t done and apologizing to keep the peace is whitewashing their wrong and it will not resolve the issues, it just covers them up temporally but they will come back again.This sadly happens in Marriage, instead of resolving problems they run away from them, ignore them or cover them up and yes there is peace for awhile but mostly one or both hold onto bitterness and resentment and so conflict continues until Separation and than Divorce happens, which shows hardness of Heart, meaning lack of True Repentance or forgiveness, they rarely see their own faults, they blame the other person and minimize or excuse the wrong they have done.

    This is why we must not hold onto bitterness and resentment and seek revenge, it’s like mixing poison for those who have hurt us and drinking it ourselves, like Cancer it eats away all the goodness in us. We forgive those who hurt us but like us with God’s forgiveness, they cannot have our forgiveness until they ask for it by saying sorry as confirmed in the Scripture below.

    Luke 17:3-5 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee rebuke him and if he repent forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day and seven times in a day turn again to thee saying; I repent, thou shalt forgive him. And the Apostles said unto the Lord Increase our faith.

    I’m so thankful Hayley that like you there is no one that I wish evil for even though I have been hurt many times even recently, I ask God to forgive them and to help me to keep forgiving them but this does not mean I have to accept the wrong they do and say, we are not to agree with what God calls evil and we don’t allow them to go on hurting us with them believing it’s OK to do so.

    What I would do Hayley if you really feel and know you are not guilty of what your being accused of, is either go to this Woman or Text her and ask her why she said such hurtful things about you and than say to her if she felt that you had done wrong why did she not come to you and Lovingly correct you.

    It is not acceptable to abuse someone by Text or in person. If she starts to argue walk away or stop Texting. God tells us to live in Peace when it depends on us, sometimes it doesn’t depend on us and there is nothing more we can do in person but yes Pray for her Hayley and also ask God to give you a heart of Love for this woman and for an opportunity to show kindness to her.

    Bless you dear Hayley, God Loves you greatly and He is with you all the way everyday, yes He has you back covered.

    Christian Love Always – Anne (Grannie Annie)

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment, Anne. I definitely agree with what you’re saying but I suppose it’s tricky to explain everything in detail for you to understand the decision I made when I apologised. It was more ‘I’m sorry you feel that way and I’m sorry if I came across like that’.
      I know my heart was never to offend this person but if I have, then I’m sorry for that. I do feel amazingly free now I’ve apologised so I’m glad I did it.
      Thank you so much though Anne because I can totally understand what you’re saying and I’m so grateful for you sharing your wisdom with me. I think there is not always a straightforward answer in these situations but we have to just do what we believe God is telling us to do.
      Much love,
      Hayley 😊💕

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  4. Our weakness lies in always wanting to vindicate ourselves. Oswald Chambers
    SO true. so true. so true. True of me. I’m learning to ask and let Father be my vindicator and my shield… yes, the lifter of my head. Thank you so much!

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